On Writing

Rejected (and a Story)

My writing year began with a rejection email from an editor. The story I’d submitted approached erotica from a different angle, one that looked at the people behind the pussies and cocks and orgasms. It dealt with dominance and submission and explored how scary the roles are for newbies. How foreign, yet yearned for. How surprising and serious. How life-changing.

On Transgression, Taboo Subjects, and Censorship

sculpture at Khajuraho Temple Transgression, Rule-breaking and Paradoxes of the Human Condition As a storyteller, I used to say my first mission was to entertain, and I have written many fun, little stories. But taboo subjects are, by far, more interesting to write. Looking for ways to question, overturn assumptions, startle moral codes, and catch readers—and myself—off guard, I examine

Must-read Series for Erotica Writers and Readers

Several months ago, Emmanuelle de Maupassant invited erotica genre writers to share their secrets and thoughts about writing, writing erotica, their processes, and backgrounds in a very detailed written interview. 130 responded, writing honestly of their experiences.She’s been sharing the results in an amazing series (which came out right about the time I felt compelled to post about “erotica today”).The series has

Erotica Today

After Fifty Shades of Grey and countless copy-cats, I almost hate to say I write erotica. I like porn as much as the next person, so let me explain my hang-up. You see, real erotica is not usually about pleasure or sex, just as sex is not always about the body. Sex can leave you wanting or satiated, physically and emotionally.